Monday, April 4, 2011
Dating post hysterectomy
It never occured to me that I would have to date post hysterectomy. Last year this time I was in a committed relationship with someone who I loved dearly. We stuck together through the endometriosis journey and onto the TAH journey as well. I always felt like we would go through it together, naturally... Recently we decided to break-up. At first I was devastated at the fact that I wasn't going to have someone to love. Then it hit me. Dating post hysterectomy is a whole different world now. My lack of girlie parts could make or break me in someones decision to date me. I recently went on a date.. I felt on edge, knowing that looming over my head so to speak was this big secret. When is the right time to say something. I wouldn't want to sound like some psychotic marriage crazed girl, yet I feel that my fertility, or lack of is a big issue that needs to be addressed before hearts become fully vested in a relationship. My first attempt at a date failed miserably and I hadn't even dumped the big news on him yet. Date number 2 will be this thursday evening, we shall see how it plays out and if I have the chance to drop my big dark secret on him, hoping he doesnt run out of the restaurant in hysterics.
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
I've been waiting for a blog update for so long!
ReplyDeleteI can imagine how difficult it must be for you to be on a date and have these thoughts running through your mind the whole time.
I think that the first date is too soon...I mean nobody tells EVERYTHING about themselves on a first date anyway. I think after a few dates if you start to feel that it's going well you just have to ask him if he feels the same way. And then tell him you have to talk to him about something and it's best that he finds out sooner rather than later. If he's really interested but overwhelmed by the information, tell him that you know he'll need to take some time to think about it and that's why you wanted him to know.
I hope you have a fun date on Thursday regardless...focus just on getting to know him and try not to let these thoughts be an issue right away.
(((hugs)))
Sorry i been busy.. I will be trying to post regularly now.. especially now that I know your in suspense..haha
ReplyDelete